One Birthmom from the HEB area, made one selfless decision in April of this year, which changed a loving family’s life forever. In placing her child for adoption, she was able to make a better life for herself and for her baby. She chose a family of four near Austin, Texas; they were so overjoyed that each of the children wrote a letter to the Birthmom of their new baby sister, Ella.
Big brother Nick, who is 8 ½ years old, wrote the above letter. Since younger brother Ben is still working on his penmanship, his Mom typed his and her and her husband’s letter, in hopes to help others see the beauty in adoption.
Ben wrote: “I thank Ella’s 1st mom. I like watching her grow up. We waited a long time for our baby. God knew Ella was ours the whole time.” Ben is 6 ½ years old.
Ella’s Adoptive Mom and Dad wrote: “We walked over 2 years on a path to Ethiopia but took a detour here in Texas to our daughter. Every day I wake to a beautiful, little angel, Ella. Every day I feel so blessed she is in my life. Each day also brings gratitude, love and admiration for her birth mom. Someone who could have taken the quick and easy path
of abortion…she was brave, she was selfless. She kept a life inside of her. A life she knew she would later want to live with another family. Is that not the greatest gift you could give someone? Someone you don’t even know! We have a closed adoption. Parts of me are happy for that. Happy that I can bond and grow with Ella and not feel as if I borrowed her. Other parts of me yearn to know her Birthmom’s heart, what her voice sounds like, her laugh, the way her hands look….the parts of her Ella has, the parts she will want to know about. I feel sad that this Mom gave this gift to us and has no idea the level of her perfection.
We cannot have more children, but knew we wanted a girl to add to our 2 biological boys. My love for Ella is as strong and easy just as it is for my biological children. She joined our family 5 months ago and we haven’t skipped a beat. Our family has been enhanced by her beautiful self. I continue to be in awe of her, her father is taken by her laugh, and her brothers are eager to touch, play with, and love her every second they can.
Adoption was something I never considered before I was told I could not have more children biologically. It wasn’t a plan since my childhood to adopt. Suggested by a friend, it took soul searching to determine it was part of our plan.
Adoption has challenged my personal growth; it was life changing (for myself, my family and my community) and will forever be an option I will advocate for.
To all the Birthmoms out there who are considering adoption or have given their gift to a family, especially Ella’s Birthmom, thank you. Thank you for your heart, your drive, and your strong self.”
