Navigating the birth and adoptive parent relationship can be tricky. Legacy offers advice
When you choose the parents for your child, you are entering a lifelong bond. An act of selfless love starts the birth and adoptive parent relationship. Our Texas adoption agency has seen beautiful friendships grow as a result.
The birth and adoptive parent relationship – tips for expectant parents
When imagining the birth and adoptive parent relationship, you don’t need to figure it out on your own. Before you reach out to a waiting family, a counselor at our Texas adoption agency will talk specifics with you. We will walk with you as you decide the following.
- What are you looking for in adoptive parents?
- How do you want to begin contact with them?
- What kind of contact are you comfortable with during your pregnancy?
- How involved do you want them to be during your hospital stay?
- What would you like post-adoption contact to look like?
You are in the driver’s seat of the entire process, so the birth and adoptive parent relationship can begin at your comfort level. Whether you want the contact to be over the phone, in person, or you want to remain flexible – every choice is up to you.
All you need to do is be yourself, remain honest and communicate with your adoption counselor throughout the process.
Benefits for adoptive parents
It is normal to be leery about the birth and adoptive parent relationship. Having ongoing contact with your child’s birth mother and/or father does not mean co-parenting with them. It simply means being honest and gracious about their role in your child’s life and keeping them updated on your child as he or she grows up.
What are some of the benefits of establishing a relationship with your child’s birth parents?
- Countless studies show that adoptees benefit from knowledge of who their birth parents are, what they look like and why they chose adoption.
- You gain access to health and medical history for your child.
- The more open you are to a relationship, the more likely you are to be matched with expectant parents.
Most expectant and adoptive families tell us they are surprised and humbled by the experience of getting to know one another. Over the years, our Texas adoption agency has seen how rewarding a shared love of the child is for everyone involved.
Contact us at (817) 704-0239 if you have questions about the birth and adoptive parent relationship.
