Pressure and frustration can lead to harm of an unwanted baby
If you think that nothing can be worse than becoming pregnant with an unwanted baby, you may be wrong. Some women find themselves pressured by families, friends or birth fathers into keeping the child. When the babies arrive, the offers to help disappear. The women are faced with raising their children for 18 years. They have to pay for food, shelter, transportation and medical care for their babies and themselves.
Since there is no relief when children cry or misbehave, it is no wonder that some very nice women break down and harm their babies or get into situations that put their children at risk.
Action plan for mothers with an unwanted baby
Studies reveal that more than 900,000 infants in the United States were abused or neglected in a year. (National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System study for 2006, published in http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/PDF/wk/mm5713.pdf) If your heart isn’t into being a parent right now, then you will have a difficult time forming an attachment to your baby. Unfortunately, that is a recipe for abuse.
The compassionate counselors at Legacy Adoption Services offer a Loving and Caring workshop to help you determine whether you have the necessary financial and emotional support system in place. After completing the workshop, you can decide whether you want to raise a child or give your unwanted baby up for adoption.
Identifying 6 qualities of positive parenting
Parents who possess 6 protective factors are at a lower risk of neglecting and abusing their children, according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services’ Child Welfare Information Gateway. The birth moms and birth fathers who possess the following knowledge, skills and support systems have the greatest chance of becoming good parents: https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubPDFs/2015PressReleaseEn.pdf
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- Nurturing and attachment
- Knowledge of parenting and of child and youth development
- Parental resilience
- Social connections
- Concrete support for parents
- Social and emotional developmental well-being
You are the only one who can decide what is best for you and your child. Contact the licensed social workers at Legacy Adoption Services to learn more about the Loving and Caring curriculum and find out whether you have the 6 factors needed to parent and protect an unwanted baby.
