Birth mothers are unsung heroes. Every one of them is making a hard decision by placing her child up for adoption and is considering the life of her child before her own.It may be hard to remember this over the impending excitement of your new arrival, but the birth mother has wants and needs of her own. If you are going through an infant adoption program, here are some things your birth mother would like to hear from you.
“Thank you for contacting us”
First and foremost, it is important to thank the birth mother for choosing your family over her own. This agonizing decision is not easy and can cause a mother to doubt herself. If she is not careful, this doubting can become toxic and it can cause her to question this decision for the rest of her life. Thanking a birth mother for including you in her choice is supremely powerful and can be used as a simple way to put her at ease.
“Tell me about yourself”
Most of the time during adoption programs, the focus is centered on the prospective adoption family. While the birth mother will want to know more about your family unit, it is important that you learn about her as well! Putting forth a genuine interest will only make it easier for you to welcome her in as a member of your extended family in the future.
“How has your pregnancy been?”
It is important to remember that until the baby is born, your birth mother will go through many different emotions dealing with her pregnancy. It is always a good gesture to ask how she is coping with her pregnancy, and if there is anything you can do for her to make her life more comfortable.
“I want to stay in contact”
More than anything else, your birth mother may want to stay in contact with you to see how the child is thriving while growing up. She will want to be reassured that she made the right decision, and considering that 87% of all adopted children’s parents say they would definitely go through the adoption process again knowing what they know about their child, it is always a great idea to stay in contact.
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