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How To Respond When Your Girlfriend Is Pregnant

Your support matters: How to respond when your girlfriend is pregnant

If you’re an expectant father facing an unplanned pregnancy, you may be unsure how to respond when your girlfriend is pregnant. It is completely understandable to be afraid, nervous, overwhelmed and hesitant. You may want to explore Texas pregnancy options, which include adoption or parenting the baby yourself. It is important to think of her feelings, but it is also important to remember that you do have the right to talk about the things you are feeling. It is very important to think in the best interest of the child.

Your support is needed

So, how to respond when your girlfriend is pregnant? The first thing you should try to do is to show support for your girlfriend (or even ex-girlfriend), because she is probably even more scared than you are. She is going to need someone to lean on while she goes through the initial emotions and steps she needs to go through.

You will most likely need some time to process the news alone before you have a conversation with your girlfriend, and that is fine. It is probably best to filter what you want to say before you actually speak to your girlfriend, just to make sure you don’t say anything you might regret later. Once you have talked to your girlfriend, discussed how she is feeling, and shown that you are supportive of her, you can talk about what is going through your head.

You absolutely have a say in the decision that is made regarding your child, but it is important to remember to be sensitive to how your girlfriend is feeling. After first hearing the news, your initial reaction might be to run. While this is a normal reaction, it must be acknowledged as a negative way to handle the news.

Many women who are abandoned by their boyfriends after sharing the news of an unplanned pregnancy end up making a rash decision because they feel scared and alone. These rash decisions could be avoided if the expectant fathers were brave enough to face the situation and discuss what would be best for all three involved parties. Focusing on the best interest of the child yields the best results for the child.

More things to consider about how to respond when your girlfriend is pregnant

You should never feel like you have no right to tell your girlfriend (or ex-girlfriend) that you either want to parent or make an adoption plan. If you feel certain that you are not ready to be a parent, you need to make that clear to the mother of your child. If you feel certain that you are ready to parent, you need to discuss that with your girlfriend.

You both need to be open and honest about the way you want to approach parenting. It is not a good idea to say things simply because you think she might want to hear them. If you give her the wrong idea about your level of interest in either choosing to parent yourselves or choosing an adoption plan, there is the possibility of having to agree to something you didn’t want to agree to in the first place.

Still have questions about unplanned pregnancy?

You might feel like you need to talk to someone who knows more about the process of pregnancy, Texas pregnancy options, and what parenting would look like. Getting expert opinions is an excellent idea, because it is so important that you fully understand what parenting entails. If you are leaning more toward making an adoption plan, it is vital that you and your girlfriend meet with an options counselor from an agency who can explain to you what the adoption process might look like.

Before any decisions are made, be sure you have done as much research as possible. It is an overwhelming situation, but you and your girlfriend do not have to go through it alone. You have as much right as the expectant mother to ask for help and guidance when deciding how to approach the pregnancy. There is no need for you to feel like you are not part of the equation.

You must be sensitive to your girlfriend’s (or ex-girlfriend’s) needs, but you don’t need to tiptoe around the issue. Many women desire input from the father, but never get it. Try to find the balance between walking away because you think she doesn’t want your help, and pushing her into making a certain decision.

The options counselors at Legacy are willing and able to help you discuss the Texas pregnancy options available to you and your girlfriend. Your counselor will be there for both of you as you sort through every emotion you are feeling. Contact a Legacy options counselor today by phone, chat or email to begin the discussion.