The term “open adoption” can be a little scary. As an adoptive parent, it is what I wished for. The relationships we have with both of our kids’ birth parents are precious. We have formed great friendships and communicate often via phone, text, email and in-person visits. My husband and I are in a unique situation. Both of our adopted boys not only have each other, but both also have a full biological brother. We know our boys will understand each other and support each other as they come to understand their adoptions and their relationships with all these people that love them.
We are in an almost 5 year relationship with our oldest son’s birthparents and I have to say, we love them more and more. At first it was super awkward (we are currently in a slightly awkward stage with our youngest son’s birth parents, but I can see it quickly changing) but now we are close friends…well, family! We talk about parenting and talk about things that have nothing to do with kids, too.
We are currently scheduling summer visits for both sets of birth parents and we are so looking forward to it. These are the selfless people that made us parents. These are the people that parent my kids’ brothers. These are the most precious people in my life. I hope that we always have these relationships and they continue to grow.
As Mother’s Day approaches, I think more about N and K. I think about their sweet little boys. I think about the little boys they placed in our family. Words cannot express the honor and respect I have for these two amazing women. As I sit here and write about them, I tear up. We came into each other’s lives with so many emotions. Fear, anxiety, grief, excitement and admiration are just a few. Now, it is friendship and love. More people loving our sweet babies is definitely a good thing! We celebrate N and K always and especially on this Mother’s Day my first as a mom of two! The gravity of the gift that they have given my husband, our family and me will never be forgotten or taken for granted.
They gave me a Mother’s Day!
